Hey everyone and welcome to my page! I am SO excited to be releasing my first ever blog post… But Before I jump right into it all, I first want to say “thank you”…thank you for taking the time to visit my blog and for reading a bit, some, or all of what I have to say. 🙂
My main objective is to create a safe and non-judgmental platform to post about navigating through life with a disability, and to hopefully allow others to relate to my struggles and triumphs in ways both similar and different…
AND through this, I hope to inspire, motivate and assure many that there is greatness to a life that may not feel all that great, and that this life regardless of the circumstances we face, is still largely what we make of it.
SO.. smile often, cry when you need to, and when things feel overwhelming or like you are about to hit rock bottom… start to reset your sails by looking for one great thing in each day…because no matter how hard you have to look, there is always always always something to be thankful for.😘♥️
With all that being said, I guess the first question that should be answered is Who am I???🤔 and well…I guess that can be a little complicated depending on if your wondering about the “me” THEN or the “me’ NOW…but first let’s hash out all the static details… the things that HAVEN’T changed since the “Big Bang” which hit me like a transport truck 7.5 years ago…all the things that weren’t ripped away from me in the matter of an instant, or the things that haven’t been stripped from me slowly and painfully like a dripping tap…🙄😢 Ya let’s start there☺️…
- My name is Gillian Cruz but no… I’m not Spanish…😘 Cruz is actually my married name which I was honoured to assume when I married my amazing husband (Joel) 5 years ago. The story of how we met is both one of my favorites but also now one of the most emotional stories I have to tell. Stay tuned, I’ll definitely be writing about that soon. 😚
- Next…I’m 30 years old. 😱Wow. 30. When did that happen? Recently when I was asked my age at the Casino I almost said 25! For some reason that number is stuck in my head and heart. I think I have a pretty good idea of the “why” behind THAT number .. but we will get to that later!
- Two years after my husband and I got married, we decided to expand our family. This was not by any means an easy decision. The many reasons as to why this was not a simple walk in the park will be unraveled in my future posts… But for now let me just say that we overcame obstacles, jumped over hurdles, knocked down walls…and on January 2nd 2015 we welcomed our baby boy Landon into our world. #bestdayofourlives😍👨👩👦
- The last thing I want to talk about before diving into what or who I was before my new “normal”, is the mention of my absolutely AMAZING family and friends. Going through something so challenging definitely calls for a whole SWAT team of support. And no it doesn’t make the physical pain any better or allow my legs to move any easier…but what it does do is remind me of all the people who love and support me. It makes the bad days easier and the good days WAY better. Without them I wouldn’t have the quality of life I have, even if it’s not the quality of life I EVER envisioned for myself. The love and support I receive daily has not only remained “static”, it has become stronger than ever before, and for that I am thankful every single day. 🤗
There are many other things that have remained “static” in my life, specifically to do with innate qualities and traits, But it’s time to cut to the chase…
It’s time to focus on how the “old” me became the “new” me and everything inbetween.
How I went from a commited athlete to barely walking…
It all comes down to 2 simple letters…2 letters I wish never existed, 2 letters I wish not only I never heard, but 2 letters I wish 2.5 million other people never heard either… 2 letters that turned my whole world upside down in an instant.
Those 2 letters…MS😡😧 otherwise known as “Multiple Sclerosis”, an auto-immune disorder that interrupts the transmissions of messages from the brain. It effects everyone differently, but I can assure you there is not one person who doesn’t suffer from this terrible beast.
Here’s the beginning of my story…
I was diagnosed in 2010 at the age of 23. My initial symptom was numbness and tingling in both hands, a symptom that is fairly common. BUT because I have had many injuries from the days I was a competitive hockey player, I assumed it was something to do with that.
I WISH it was…but 8 months later when I finally received my MRI results, I realized it was something much MUCH worse…
Although that day was 7.5 years ago, I remember it as if it were yesterday. I went alone to my doctor’s appointment because I thought it was just going to be something simple…like I had thought all along, but when my family doctor announced my diagnosis, I burst into tears immediately. He handed me a Kleenex and began to draw a diagram to help explain what MS is all about, and all the awful things that can and do go wrong because of it.
When he was finished he asked me if I had any questions. I looked up from the paper with tears flooded in the bottom of my eyes and asked “is there a cure?” to which he responded No…it is a chronic and progressive illness, but it can be treated.
I wish I could agree with the last words my doctor said, but in my case it hasn’t been very “treatable” from the get-go…and in the matter of 2.5 years I went from playing 3 sports to no sports and now rely on a wheelchair to go further than around the house.
The struggles are REAL…the pain RELENTLESS…and the heartache often UNBEARABLE. 💔
In another post I’ll dive deeper into all of the struggles I have and continue to face, and all the adversity I’ve been required to overcome. But as I near the end of my very first post, I choose to end on a positive note…and that is for everyone reading this to know I’m still fighting…in many ways during the toughest days…I’m STILL fighting. Because in my opinion there is NO other option. I not only fight for myself and everyone else who is facing their own battles, but I continue to fight BIG TIME for my 2.5 year old son, who I hope one day will say “because of you mommy…I will NEVER give up”. ♥️
16 thoughts on “The Old me Before my New “Normal””
Hi Gillian .so well written. I read every single word and while I was doing that I was watching my life there. What u decide to do is great for you me and everyone who us going to read that
Thank you so much Ilda!! Pls feel free to follow my page 🙂
Well written Gill! Emotionally difficult to read for me but I am so proud of you! Love you! Continue to fight! Xxxooo
Thanks Dad. Love you too. You can become a follower of my blog page if you wish and share this post on Facebook too. Xo
So happy you did this! What a rockstar you are! You inspire me daily. I’m proud to have you in my life. Followed and shared. #nevergiveup
So well written! Although you don’t know me personally, I heard glowing things about you when I worked with your dad. I wanted to leave a comment on this blog to let you know how I admire your fighting spirit, and even though I don’t know you personally, I’m rooting for you! I’m sure you have a whole cheering section that you didn’t even know you had :0)
Wow thank you so much Carrie! That means so much to me thank you for taking the time to read my post. I would love for you to follow my blog so that you able to be notified of all my other posts yet to come. There should be a link on my page that allows you to enter your email address and follow me on this journey!
Thanks for sharing your story. I admire your strength and courage. It’s inspiring to see your positive outlook on life and a great reminder that we are the ones in control of how we live/feel regardless of the circumstances. I met you and Landon at the Early Years centre a while ago, my little one was born in November 2015. Looking forward to following your blog.
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Thank you so much Diana! If you click follow and enter your email you will be notified of all the new posts 🙂
Gillian thankyou for sharing with the rest of us. I am sorry to hear your ms has taken over as much as it has and you need your wheelchair more now . I know you will be a fighter through all of the ups and downs I am sure you will encounter in the days ..months.
And years to come .. hugs!!!!
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Thank you very much for reading my post and for your kind words! Please feel free to follow my page in order to receive all my future posts 🙂
You are a true warrior in this life! A true inspiration! I am friends with Rachael Hunter and just know that you have so many people in your corner cheering you on! You are a beautiful person inside and out! Keep the faith! ❤
Wow thank you so much Molly! Your kind words are so appreciated.
Having read this I thought it was really informative. I appreciate you taking the time and effort to put this content together. I once again find myself personally spending a lot of time both reading and posting comments. But so what, it was still worth it!
Can’t wait to read more , very well written xxx